{"id":18293,"date":"2018-05-19T00:00:47","date_gmt":"2018-05-18T22:00:47","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.claret.org\/?p=18293"},"modified":"2018-05-19T00:01:01","modified_gmt":"2018-05-18T22:01:01","slug":"19-may","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.claret.org\/de\/19-may\/","title":{"rendered":"19 May"},"content":{"rendered":"
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\u201cWhen you have to correct someone, take the hand of sweetness, which is very effective in this. Sweetness is the great servant of charity and her inseparable companion. Reprimand, considering its nature, is bitter, but given with sweetness and baked in the fire of charity is cordial, kind and delicious.<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n
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Carta Asc\u00e9tica que\u2026 escribi\u00f3 al presidente de uno de los coros de la Academia de San Miguel. Barcelona 1862, p. 10<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n
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CORRECTING WITH SWEETNESS<\/h2>\n<\/div>\n
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Fr Claret, even as a teenager, perceived the necessity of correcting with sweetness. In his father\u2019s workshop he learned \u2018everyone, even the rudest people, should be treated kindly and affably and that much more may be gained by kindness than by harshness and irritability\u2019 (Aut 34). This would be constant in his ministry; \u2018nothing of terror, softness in everything\u2019 said Balmes, commenting on his style of preaching. Claret himself believed in the efficacy of this softness, which he illustrates with his famous comparison of cooking snails (cf. Aut 471). In his years as ecclesial administrator in Sallent he received many \u2018slanders and insults\u2019 against himself and his ageing father. He tried to \u2018suffer them with patience, without complaining about them\u2019. He denounced them justly, without ever losing his composure (cf. ECI pp 77 and 80).
\nSometimes we lose our patience and our nerves lead us to verbal excesses. We also surprise ourselves by our tendency to air others\u2019 defects, forgetting our own. From there we can fall into hypocrisy. How different is \u2018fraternal\u2019 correction, which is accompanied by affection, humility and delicacy so that our brother\u2019s sensitivity is not wounded. Only this usually has a positive effect: in practising it we imitate Jesus, so we can speak \u2018words of life\u2019.
\nAre there environments in which my patience is seriously threatened? Are there people with whom I easily lose patience? Do I take just precautions?<\/p>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

\u201cWhen you have to correct someone, take the hand of sweetness, which is very effective in this. Sweetness is the great servant of charity and her inseparable companion. Reprimand, considering its nature, is bitter, but given with sweetness and baked in the fire of charity is cordial, kind and delicious. Carta Asc\u00e9tica que\u2026 escribi\u00f3 al […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":2,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_et_pb_use_builder":"","_et_pb_old_content":"","_et_gb_content_width":"","footnotes":""},"categories":[524],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-18293","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-claret-mit-dir"],"jetpack_featured_media_url":"","jetpack_sharing_enabled":true,"jetpack_shortlink":"https:\/\/wp.me\/pdaBmi-4L3","jetpack_likes_enabled":true,"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.claret.org\/de\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/18293","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.claret.org\/de\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.claret.org\/de\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.claret.org\/de\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/2"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.claret.org\/de\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=18293"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/www.claret.org\/de\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/18293\/revisions"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.claret.org\/de\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=18293"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.claret.org\/de\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=18293"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.claret.org\/de\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=18293"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}